Men connecting to women
* R is for Routinely connect: Hug your spouse six times a day, for a duration of at least six seconds each time.
* O is for Open your heart and mind: Women want to know what are your thinking, what are you feeling — but not really. They want to know all the good things you’re thinking about them.
* C is for Contact: For a woman, it’s all about contact. Even if you’re reading the paper, let your foot touch hers.
* K is for Keep it positive: Make a conscious effort to think about the good things in your relationship.
Women connecting to men
* S is for Sex: There’s a reason men seem to want sex more. That’s where men get the biggest hit of oxytocin, the same hormone that prepares women for motherhood and helps them breast-feed. A study cited in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences found that oxytocin can help social bonding by building trust.
* T is for Touching: Men need two to three times more touching than women do, flesh on flesh, to experience the same sense of closeness. Men are touched deprived.
* A is for Appreciation: Appreciation goes a lot further with men. Men live on it.
* R is for Respect his routine: Women can multitask, but men tend to focus on one thing. So don’t think he’s ignoring you if he’s involved in a task, such as typing on the computer, and he doesn’t answer you right away when you ask him where the car keys are.
